Kate Anthony | Be A Tactical Leader

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Tactical Friday: Actionable Steps to Challenge the Alpha-Mindset with Kate Anthony

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Welcome back to another Tactical Friday. Today I have Kate Anthony back with us to share actionable advice for those who are willing to shed the alpha-mindset and enter a higher way of living and thinking alongside some of my experiences seeking out a professional.

Let’s jump right in and start the healing process.

Things you will learn in this episode:

[00:01 – 01:16] Opening Segment

I welcome back, Kate Anthony
Let’s talk practical steps

[01:36 – 04:08] Actionable Steps

Step one
Admit to the problem and that you need help
This is one of the hardest steps
Encourage your spouse but don’t fix them
Step two
Get vulnerable with someone trusted
Step three
Seek out professional help

[04:09 – 08:11] Finding the Right Therapist

I talk about having a therapist I didn’t trust
Find the one who has been there and done that
Just because they’re a therapist doesn’t mean they’re good
Vet them first through their resources and website
Look for experience and specialization
The ability to look for tele-help

[08:12 – 10:51] Taking Extreme Ownership

I talk about taking ownership as a man at home
It’s not ‘man up’, ‘it’s step up’
Both sides have to give 100%

[10:52 – 12:19] Closing Segment

How to connect with you?
See links below
Final words

Tweetable Quotes:

“If you have children, what do you want for them? Do you want them to suffer the same that you’ve suffered? Probably not. So you want to model to them what it’s like to seek help when it’s required.” – Kate Anthony

“There is no shame in seeking professional help. It is the most courageous, the bravest, and the strongest thing you could possibly do for yourself, for your spouse, and for your family.” – Kate Anthony

Resources Mentioned:

“It’s not Your F***ing Job” – podcast episode
Now He Wants to Go to Therapy – podcast episode
Attached – book
Extreme Ownership

You can connect with Kate on Instagram and Facebook. Visit her website www.kateanthony.com/ and tune in to The Divorce Survival Guide Podcast for more content.

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Challenging the Alpha-Mindset with Kate Anthony

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Things you will learn in this episode:

[00:01 – 03:35] Opening Segment

I introduce today’s guest, Kate Anthony
Fellow podcaster and women’s coach
Kate gives us some background
Into brain/neuroscience
Pro-healthy, happy relationships
Diving into your own psyche
Leading others is simple, it’s harder to lead oneself

[03:36 – 09:42] Leading Oneself Out of the Power Dynamic

Kate talks about the importance of leading yourself
It’s not just about control
It’s about creating emotional safety for yourself and your partner
Difference between aggression and assertiveness
You can assert yourself without creating a hostile environment
Aggression creates a power imbalance
I talk about giving myself as an example for our conversation
Kate talks about dominance within relationships
Who you are at work needs to shift when you get home
You don’t want that kind of dynamic at home
Kate talks about the military conditioning
It’s good out on the field
It’s hard to let it go when you get home
Acknowledging that vulnerability won’t get you killed

[09:43 – 20:05] The Power of Vulnerability

Vulnerability is a strength within leadership not a weakness
It grows bonds
People listen to vulnerable people
Responding to stories and experience
“It’s not Your F***ing Job”
It’s not other people’s job to heal your trauma
This creates unfair resentment
Asking for help, appropriately is the most manly thing you can do
Male conditioning from a child
The leader needs to show vulnerability first
Redefining manhood
Keeping things in leads to leaking out at the edges
Doing the work on yourself trains your brain to think rationally in seemingly high stress situations
Flipping the switch can become quicker
There’s an attractiveness to a man who can be vulnerable

[20:06 – 26:46] Re-Defining Manhood

Redefine manhood by redefining courage
Not the opposite of fear
Acceptance of fear and choosing to act
It’s not manning up, it’s allowing softer places
There’s courage in vulnerability because it goes against the grain
Kate talks about the need for Emotional Intelligence
The top lacking feature in industry leaders
Success comes from having EQ at your core
Without it you won’t go farther than a certain point
It can’t stop at academics
Where we lose the EQ
When you don’t have it you don’t seek it
Very little teaching and training around it

[26:47 – 36:16] Closing Segment

Resources for the audience?
Links below
Kate talks about attachment styles and their importance
Understanding your spouse through communication
Use “I” language
When a woman is done, she’s done
Get help before that point comes
What legacy do you want to leave?
Women need to be empowered to know they deserve to happy and there is healing available
“If I could work myself out of a job as a divorce coach, I’d be F***ing happy”
How to connect with you?
See links below
Stay tuned for Tactical Friday
Final words

Tweetable Quotes:

“Dive into the deep waters of your own trauma, psyche, habits, patterns, attachment style, all of that… “ – Kate Anthony

“ I don’t think you can have a healthy, happy relationship if you don’t first really deeply examine yourself, because that’s who we bring to every relationship.” – Kate Anthony

“For me as a woman, a man who has gone to therapy has done the work, who is working on themselves, who owns their stuff, takes personal responsibility and can be vulnerable is… SO much hotter!” – Kate Anthony

Resources Mentioned:

“It’s not Your F***ing Job” – podcast episode
Now He Wants to Go to Therapy – podcast episode
Attached – book
Getting the Love You Want – book

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